Colonel Wyckoff’s Lost Tombstone

My mom is a first generation American.  This means that she and her siblings are the first in the family to be born in the United States. My Grandfather on my dad’s side is also first generation American.  Mom is half German and half Austro-Hungarian Jew, and Grandpa on Dad’s side is 100% Polish. Grandpa on Dad’s side married an American. This is where the lost tombstone comes in. DAR FT

Dad says he’s half Polish and half mutt. On the mutt side of my family (the American side), I have a 5th great-grandfather who was a colonel in the American Revolution, so I qualify as a Daughter of the American Revolution (DAR); even though I am part mutt.

Sooner or later I’ll get around to joining the DAR, but for now, I’ll just settle for finding my  great-grandfather’s grave. My great-grandmother on my father’s side was a Wyckoff. And her great-great grandfather was Colonel Auke[y] Wikoff [Wyckoff/Wykoff]. There is a story there, and if I do some digging, I’ll be able to tell it.

Auke Wyckoff TombstoneIn the meantime, I know where Colonel Wyckoff’s grave is, but I haven’t been able to get a picture of it. A good one, anyway.  To the left is a copy of a photo of the Colonel’s tombstone, It is the only one I could find. If you look closely, you can see the name “Auke Wikoff.”

Auke Wikoff’s grave is located in the Polhemus family cemetery in Monmouth NJ. There are 44 tombstones in the cemetery. According to Find-a-Grave, “15 stones predate 1800. It is in a heavily wooded area, with many brambles and poison ivy.” Perhaps that is why my request for a better photo has produced no results yet. But I’d really like to get a better view of this tombstone, not a copy of a photo, but an actual photo. In fact, I’d love to get some good photographs of the WHOLE  grave yard.  Wouldn’t that be awesome?

William Aukey Wykoff

I was able to find a photo of his son, my fourth great-grandfather, William Auke Wykoff, but that’s because they are not in the same cemetery. Both of these tombstones can be found on The colonel’s photo even comes with a story attached. You can go look them up, or you can wait for me to dig up more information about Auke and write the story for my blog. Or both.

In the meantime, The Polhemus family cemetery has several other tombstones from my family tree, probably even my 5th great-grandmother, Sarah Schenck’s, tombstone.  I think it would be a great idea to write my final post for Graveyard Month on the Polhemus family cemetery.  It’s got all of the necessary elements for a spooky ending to the month. I may not be able to get to Monmouth NJ, but I think I can get to some photos. I’m going to do some more digging and see what I can get for you.

I hope you are looking forward to it as much as I am!


11 thoughts on “Colonel Wyckoff’s Lost Tombstone

  1. I have a photo of Auke’s headstone that was taken on Sept. 5, 2019. E-mail me if you would like me to send you a copy. I have many relatives in the Polhemus Cemetery and have taken pictures of all of the stones that are there.

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  2. I just found this page and wanted you to know that I have a number of relatives buried in the Polhemus Family Burial Grounds and have visited there a number of times. I’ve taken photos of most of the headstones and have uploaded most of them to Find A Grave and/or I have one of Col. Auke Wikoff. Let me know if you would like me to e-mail any of them to you. I was at the cemetery yesterday (9-5-2019) and will be going there again this weekend to cut down some of the weeds that have grown up since the site was last maintained back in 2017. The Colts Neck Preservation Committee has a video of the cemetery on their page:

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      2. I’m not certain why I received an e-mail on this but I will tell you what i know. I am very involved with the Polhemus Family Burial Grounds and have been going there for the last few years and have been there at least 4 times in the last few weeks maintaining it and trying to keep it in some semblance of order. No one goes there except me. It is in the middle of the woods and very few even know of its existence.
        This site is very non-user friendly. E-mail me at to have a conversation. I have photographs of all of the stone in the Polhemus Family Burial Grounds. Are you aware of this cemetery?

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      3. Thank you for reaching out. I believe your email is linked to this thread, and that is why you received this message. I know we had talked pre-COVID about a visit to the Polhemus cemetery. My granddaughter and I are talking about a visit sometime this coming spring. I’ll reach out to you when we solidify our plans. -Marianne


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