The Second Wife’s Story is coming together, but I had to quit working on it for a couple of months. I’m now two months now, but I’m back on track and working on a second biography as well. There’s so much to tell, and I’m so excited to share my progress with you!
Many of you know me personally and many others have known me by my birthname on Facebook and other social media sites. Here on WordPress, I have gone by Too Many Hats for too many years. Some of those hats have come off so it’s now time to change, not just my profile name, but my pen-name as well.
I chose my pen-name many, many years ago, when I decided that someday I would become a writer of books. That someday has been a long time in coming, so the name change is finally underway.
I began looking into that name on Facebook about a month ago–just to see how many individuals might be affected by my choice and just a couple of weeks later a profile with that very name showed up as a friend request. This was very suspicious to me at the moment, so I immediately blocked the request. I was concerned that someone, or some-thing, was trying to take over my professional identity. Since then, I have realized that it was most likely a Facebook generated suggestion and not an attempt to steal anything. I’ve since tried to figure out how to unblock the suggestion so I can send an apologetic friend request, but to no avail.
I thought I’d better go public soon, anyway, so at least my readers won’t get as confused as I am. I hope this helps. You may see me here on WordPress and on other social media by both my given name and Mari K. Flowers, an English variation on my given name. Either way it’s still me, and you will be seeing much more of both of me in the near future!
Last month, one of my readers commented on my newsletter that readers are an audience, and that I can do what I want without consulting them. Please don’t get me wrong, it is valuable advice for many blogs, but when I started Stories From the Past, I meant for it to be something bigger than that. I wanted this to be a place to revive the stories of “average” people who slipped out of this life and into obscurity. While their lives may have seemed unimportant and mundane to them, following generations don’t necessarily agree. There are stories of heroism left unwritten, lessons to be learned, entertaining insights, and great ideas that are otherwise lost to the world if they are not put into words and made accessible, so input from my readers is extremely valuable to me.
For history nuts like myself, reading and telling stories of bygone days is fun, but I am repeatedly told that telling the true stories of past generations is a valuable service. There are plenty of biographical tidbits all over the internet, in books and other published media, but I wanted this to be a place where otherwise untold stories could find a home.
What I really want is for this to be an interactive site where I am not only telling stories from my own family’s past, but incorporating stories from readers, collecting stories from friends, inviting others to submit their own stories, and reaching out in search of lost stories. It’s done well by me so far, and I want to do well by my contributors, so the monthly newsletter will continue to act as a way to reach out to family, old friends, new friends, and new-found cousins for feedback and more stories. And, of course, it will always continue to function as foundation for accountability on my part.
What am I Doing Wrong?
Last month I set up a Go-Fund-Me fundraiser to help me get to Austria. I was so excited when less than five minutes after publication I had a $100 donation. Great! I thought, I’m on my way. Then nothing. I posted to Facebook, LinkedIn, made an individual Facebook message for many of my friends, and still got nothing other than that one original donation. I would really love for someone with Go-Fund-Me experience to give me some advice. I must be doing something wrong . . .
In the meantime, my Fundraiser will stay open until I have received enough donations and/or saved enough to go to Austria. Even if I have to go later. I may miss the museum inauguration, but I can still go when I can afford it.
Still in the Race
I didn’t get a whole lot done last month, but I am still plugging along on two or three hours a day, five days a week. I’m definitely not moving at Stephen King pace, but I am happy that I’m still going.
February 5 is Chinese New Year. I don’t want it to be forgotten. In fact, I intend to include a series of stories for my husband’s Chinese family. However, I have rarely mentioned my husband. This is mostly due to the fact that my husband is a high-functioning adult with autism. Anyone with autistic family members may be quite aware that people with autism have little to no interest in thoughts, ideas, activities, or events that do not directly affect them, so when I brought up the idea of researching his ancestors, he told me, “Why don’t you just leave them alone? They’re dead. They don’t care.” LOL. I ignored him and kept on researching and writing.
So in honor of my husband, I intend to make this month’s Raising Voices about something that directly affects him: disability, and the misuse of terms like idiot, retard, and even disability. In the future, I’ll be focusing more on stories from his Chinese background.
So here’s what’s going on this month:
January Review:
Mary Eynon ancestor profile page (not a post) -incomplete
StoriesFromthePast.com 